Fear is the bedrock of everything. Faulkner, a noble laureate winner said in his Nobel speech in regards to young artist said “He must learn them again; he must teach himself that the basis of all things is to be afraid“.
Taking the case of fear further to closer relates it to development; Stacy London opined that one should not “let fear or insecurity stop you from trying new things. Believe in yourself. Do what you love. And most importantly, be kind to others, even if you don’t like them.”
Taking a closer observation of the relation between Fear and insecurity, an understanding is reached, that most times fear is aroused by insecurity which arise from situation unexpected or unavoidable and it envelops us with anxiety and apprehension.
“Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay.” Our fear are mostly not one the happenings of the moment, they are often projected and this hinder us from exploring today to better position ourselves for the things we are scared of.
Passenger in his song titled “Home” said “…fear is for the brave, the cowards never stare it in the eye…” can one then say being afraid is an assurance of strength visible or undiscovered?
If you find yourself so scared of you are always scared, ask yourself how have I been able to survive when I did nothing to empower myself against the fear, and how have I done when I sat back?
What is Development
Most times when we hear the word development, we look at the infrastructure that has been put in place over the years by the state in which we exist; often time we fail to remember that human is constantly developing itself as each sun rise.
The development of the self avail to us more fear than that of the society. “Unlike a drop of water which loses its identity when it joins the ocean, man does not lose his being in the society in which he lives. Man’s life is independent. He is born not for the development of the society alone, but for the development of his self” –Ambedkar
How much time have you sat down to monitor the process of your development in the past two weeks? Do you think that is enough?
Bruce Lee commented “..Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential”.
The process of self discovery is quite fearsome if one diligently sort after it but the reward is worth more than the regrets on the death bed.
Tie between Fear and Development
Our fears are generated by things we believe are stronger or more than we can handle. How about the billions neurons in our brain? They are tired of you not engaging the most of them. the demands might be challengeing, but we have more than enough support from within to overcome the situation that poses us with fear.
Get to action
Our fears strategies and fear us the more we think about them. we are always provided with two options or more in every situation, not deciding on one choice because there are elements of the later that we need begin the process of fear development in us. So instead of lingering, why not get to action with the choice you prefer.
Vulnerability is acceptable
Dispense with the need to be right and look good. We are all ignorant of something until we learn it. Few things display courageous leadership behavior as dramatically as being vulnerable. Great leaders are vulnerable, caring, and passionate about people. They are also the kind of people we connect with most readily and the ones we most trust. Admit to you fear but move on with your plans.
Fearlessness is for heroes in novels and movies. In life, we regularly experience concern. Acknowledge your fears, even the invented ones, and spend time noticing them. How could you use this fear to serve you? You could notice it, recognize you’ve felt it before, noted that nothing terrible happened then, and walk through the fear. You could allow it to stop you in your tracks. Stopping is rarely the best solution. Moving through the fear almost always works.
Questions can be numb
The only dumb questions are the ones we hide, the issues that never see the light of day. The unasked question that keeps us stuck when, by asking it, we unleash collaboration, knowledge, and growth. Allow yourself to be the questioner-in-chief on your team. It increases your credibility and connection with others and, as a bonus, leads to personal growth and effectiveness.